Procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something. I used to be the queen at procrastination. In my case it was my dream, or vision that I was procrastinating. I was one of those people who got home from work, and instead of working on my dream, I binge watched my favorite t.v. shows. Then, when I did start inching my way to working on my dreams, I used the excuse that I needed to watch a certain documentary for research, and help fill my brain with all this good information. I basically just swapped out my favorite shows for documentaries. Now don’t get me wrong, those documentaries helped change my life, but in my head, I was using them as a way to get out of working on my vision.
I would tell myself that I needed to watch those first, and it was true. Knowledge is power, but one documentary turned into three, then that turned into five, and so on, and so forth, and it ate up what time i had. You get the picture. I was filling my mind with the right materials, but I wasn’t taking action. I was procrastinating.
There are many reasons why we procrastinate, but I have some tips that I’ve used to help me get out of that horrible habit that may help.
Take the 1st Step
What I had to do was take action. Instead of sitting there each night, and watching T.V., I had to turn that damn television off, and get to work. I knew that if I didn’t get up, and get to working, I was going to be laying on that couch, watching those same shows year after year, gaining more and more weight. I didn’t want that. I have dreams. I have a vision.
My problem was that I was planning. I needed a good plan so I could start living my dream life.
Of course, we need a plan, but I was using it as an excuse to keep laying on the couch, because I’m tired as hell, right?. I was procrastinating. I had been at work all day, and the last thing I wanted to do was go home, and do more work. Even if it was working on my bigger vision, I didn’t want to work, so procrastination was my excuse at the time. It was my crutch.
Look, procrastination is going to happen. Unfortunately, it’s a part of the process. The trick is to realize when it’s happening, and get yourself together, and get to work.
Stop Overthinking It
Thinking too long about doing something, is the reason it never gets done. We over think everything in our lives, and then by the time it comes to take action we have already thought ourselves out of doing it. When we over think things we can cause a mental breakdown. I have had a few of these breakdowns myself, and even wrote about one. We tend to create our own problems when we think too much, so stop over thinking and just do it. Just get up ,and take the first step towards your goal. Sometimes we just need a break from our thoughts. “Most of the problems in life are because of two reasons:
We act without thinking, or we keep thinking without acting”
We can all sit down, and make a LONG list of the things that are distracting us. I didn’t really have to sit down, and make a list, all my reason were staring me right in the face. Facebook, Instagram, T.V., and the list goes on. I was more worried about everyone else, and how I needed to relax after a long day, than to get off my ass, and take “Radical Action”, as Tony Robins calls it. It wasn’t until I sat there in my living room one evening about to turn on the television, that I heard a small whisper say to me “Get to work”, and I knew I was going down the wrong path. If I didn’t stop distracting myself from continuing with that long list of distractions, I would not be here today writing this blog post. I would’ve gave up, and said “the hell with it, my life is ok”.
I love my life. I love my husband, and I love my family. I am grateful for everything I have, but I knew there was still some deep burning desire in me to live my dreams, and I wasn’t satisfied with myself. I had neglected my own dreams of writing for so long, that my distractions became a normal part of my every-day life. When I removed those distractions,- and that’s exactly what I did, I became more productive, and I got to work.
I don’t know about everyone, but I do know that I need motivation. Every day I’m finding some ways to keep myself motivated, because along the way, you will experience the self-doubt. The horrible self-talk will begin, and you will need something there to motivate you to keep going. What works for me, because I still do this every day, is listening to motivational speeches. I can’t stress enough how you need someone, or something in your ear telling you to keep going. Find your motivation, use it every day. EVERY DAY. This is important, it keeps you moving forward when the self-doubt creeps up on you.
Oh how crucial this one is. I can’t stress this enough. Focus is the one thing that will get you out of bed, off the couch, and into a zone. You must focus. Socrates said “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new”.
Another trick to focusing is to only focus on one thing at a time until you master it. If you are focusing on too many things at once you will lose interest, lose focus, and it will never happen. I know from experience. I finally learned from my mistakes, and now I’m focusing on just one thing at a time. It’s great to have big dreams, its awesome, and those big dreams will come if you focus on one of them at a time.
My husband told me to add this quote in, I don’t know who said it first but here goes “You know what they say about procrastination? its like masturbation, in the end your only fucking yourself?. He thinks its hilarious, and that’s my husband for you. Who wouldn’t love that? LOL