What Are You Asking Your Graduate

With school just coming to an end, I wanted to stop and ask you, “What are you asking your graduate?”  The reason I want to know this is because my niece just graduated and after asking her mother what plans my niece had made for her future, she responded, “I don’t know, she’s just tired of everyone asking her that.”

WOW is all I can say because, we don’t realize how much pressure that one question puts on them.  They are 18 or 19 years old for Pete’s Fucking Sake, the majority of them don’t know what the hell they want to do tomorrow, so they aren’t going to know what they want to do for the next 60, 70, or 80 years of their lives.

I thought about my path, and how I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.  I think I’m just now figuring that out, and I’m thirty.- six.  If someone had asked me what my passions were, or what I loved doing, then just maybe it wouldn’t have taken me forever to decide.

Maybe the question we should ask our kids is


What are your dreams?

What makes you happy?

What do you love to do that fills your heart with joy, and pure bliss?

These are questions to ask them that will bring out their imaginations, and they can feel like they can dream again, and when you ask your kids these questions pay attention to their reactions when they talk about their dreams, and what brings them joy.  It’s amazing to see the look on our childs’ face when they get to express their true authentic self.

The most important thing we want for our kids is for them to be happy and live a fulfilling life, so why are we not asking them what makes them happy?  What are their passions?  I think if we started asking these questions instead of pressuring them into picking something, our world will start changing.  Happy kids grow up to be happy adults, and happy people make a happy world.

Trust me, they will find their way.  They are going to be great.

This one’s for you Abs.  Go live your dream life and shine bright in this world.

 Lets spread the happiness.

With Love,



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  1. Just had that conversation with my cousin’s daughter who graduated a year ago Summa Cum Laude with a triple major in English, French and Studio Art. After going back to her university for a semester as a teaching assistant in studio art, she’s now trying to get as many performing gigs as she can and she writes reviews for art journals. Definitely a non-traditional way to go, and people who ask what her plans are don’t get it.

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      A lot of people won’t get it because we are stuck in a thinking pattern that a good job pays the bills and dreams don’t. I hate that way of thinking. Let them live their dreams is what I say. The old way isn’t working anymore. I love this. Thank you Allison.

  2. I’m 36 and still have no idea what the hell I really want out of life. I know I love to help others and I’m fascinated with skincare, so that’s why I started my blog, but really when I was in college, I had no freaking idea. I went because I knew I was supposed to. No one had conversations with me about what made me happy or anything like that. The amount of pressure on new graduates is insane!

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      Yes it is. My family used to make fun of me and call me a professional student because I was wandering around aimlessly not knowing who or what to be. Racked up some debt that way and still got nothing out of it but debt.

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